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Next Level Anger Management: Appreciating My Inner Truth Teller

February 4, 2022 by Steli Efti

I’ve spent a good amount of time over the past 2 years working on the anger that I thought I didn’t have. And for the most part, I thought that I was good by now—I felt I had a good relationship with my anger. Until something unexpected happened: I got angry, and I hid it …

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The Dance of Anger: Are You Over- or Underfunctioning?

July 7, 2021 by Steli Efti

One of the most insightful books on managing anger I’ve read is The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, and in this episode I discuss the concept of overfunctioning and underfunctioning. TRANSCRIPT:[00:00:00] I want to do a quick chat with you about the book dance with anger. And …

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How to change yourself: Slow adjustments vs Instant Transformation

April 6, 2021 by Steli Efti

I’ve been reading a book about personal change and anger, and one paragraph early on in the book stood out to me: [If you want to change yourself, do it] very slowly, no matter how crazy or self-defeating our current behavior appears to be. It exists for a reason and may serve a positive and …

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Ok, now I’m punching pillows (Anger-management Adventures)

February 26, 2021February 25, 2021 by Steli Efti

One of the emotions I still haven’t found a good way to relate to is my anger. For most of my adult life, my way of handling anger was simply to suppress it and pretend it didn’t exist at all. Getting angry meant that someone else had power over me, someone else was able to …

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How my jaw pain forces me to face unpleasant truths

February 23, 2021 by Steli Efti

I don’t know how to explain this to people who’ve never felt it, but I’ve been suffering from jaw tension for quite a while now. It comes and goes, and I never really know what triggered it until I did some deep introspection. I believe it’s forcing me to confront truths I’d rather not face. …

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