How to change yourself: Slow adjustments vs Instant Transformation

I’ve been reading a book about personal change and anger, and one paragraph early on in the book stood out to me: [If you want to change yourself, do it] very slowly, no matter how crazy or self-defeating our current behavior appears to be. It exists for a reason and may serve a positive and …

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Fatherhood Odyssey: When Teaching, Make It Fun Before You Make It Right

While homeschooling my two sons, I witnessed my younger one just in the midst of that special phase where you learn to read and begin to make sense of words. And I (once more) realized the importance of fun: When teaching a new skill, don’t stress out about getting it right and avoiding mistakes. Don’t …

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Fatherhood odyssey: The power of nonjudgmental encouragement

Now that I’m back in Germany, I’m spending a lot of time with my two sons, and there was a beautiful experience of trust and courage we’ve shared together that I want to capture here. Transcript:Yesterday, I went to the playground with my sons and my oldest son. Told me that recently his mom and …

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Storytelling and the audience’s capacity to open up their hearts and minds

In this episode we geek out about the art of storytelling, and it’s magical ability to touch and move us, to think new thoughts, to live life in new ways. Books discussed: Story by Robert McKee Dune by Frank Herbert so the book story, the book story by Robert, what’s his name? Mickey Mickey. So …

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Ok, now I’m punching pillows (Anger-management Adventures)

One of the emotions I still haven’t found a good way to relate to is my anger. For most of my adult life, my way of handling anger was simply to suppress it and pretend it didn’t exist at all. Getting angry meant that someone else had power over me, someone else was able to …

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How my jaw pain forces me to face unpleasant truths

I don’t know how to explain this to people who’ve never felt it, but I’ve been suffering from jaw tension for quite a while now. It comes and goes, and I never really know what triggered it until I did some deep introspection. I believe it’s forcing me to confront truths I’d rather not face. …

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I just can’t relax

I was out on the balcony on a sunny day in Austin. It was a nice day. Everything was fine. Beautiful music playing. My day’s work was done. And that’s when it hit me: I’m good at many things—but relaxing isn’t one of them. Even when you see me chilling, inside of me, there’s so …

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Work in Public

In this episode, I talk about our podcast, and why it’s so different from the content we’ve created in the past. Most of these episodes are unstructured conversations and explorations of random themes of my life—there are no actionable takeaways, no bitesized nuggets of wisdom, and oftentimes no answers to the questions we pose. And …

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You can’t be upset with others, and at peace with yourself

Most of the episodes of this podcast are me talking about a topic that’s currently on my mind—oftentimes meanderings that don’t lead to a clear conclusion, or challenges I’m facing that yet lack a satisfying solution. It’s inner work in progress. Today is a little bit different: I’m sharing an heuristic of my inner work …

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1 simple hack that helped me achieve less email stress

I’m the CEO of a very successful software startup. 8-figure revenue, thousands of customers all around the world, employees spread out all across the globe. I know what email stress feels like. There’s a lot of professional advice out there on how to overcome and manage email stress. The University of Michigan recommends to adherence …

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What it’s like to love a fighter with Kevin von Duuglas-Ittu

I’m excited to release our first ever interview on the Inner Work podcast. I spoke with Kevin von Duuglas-Ittu. He’s the husband of Sylvie von Duuglas-Ittu, and together they run one of my favorite podcasts of all time, the Muay Thai Bones podcast, and the 8 LIMBS US blog. We talk about Muay Thai, Sylvie’s …

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My 30 day media fast: What happened to my mind when I stopped consuming content for 1 month

There’s a reason why I grew a multi-million dollar company through content marketing. I’m good at content because I’ve consumed a ton of content in my life—starting out as a child where I spent all day every day in front of a TV. I was basically raised by a TV. From the moment I came …

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